7 things to do if you're feeling resentful about doing everything

Are you the problem solver and fixer of all things?

Do you ever feel resentful that others don't seem to do as much and don't approach things the same way as you?

In clients in burnout, feeling resentful comes up quite often. These people are do-ers, fixers who get stuff done their way to their standards. And this can become exhausting. Others might not share your values and make different decisions to you. Then things that matter to you don't get done and you feel resentful

Here are 7 things to do if you're feeling resentful:

1. Figure out why you’re feeling resentful: what matters to you?  
   • Find out WHY first.
   • What really matters to you? Is it a certain task at work, or getting to see your kids play sport on time rather than late every time?
   • Our brains like to make meaning of everything, based on our values. 
2. Identify what your priorities are. 
   • This ties in with what matters to you.
   • List your top 5 priorities in order.
   • Why did you list them that way?
3. Get that list out of your head and onto paper......I'll wait!
   • Writing down everything that is in your head is cathartic and clarifying. 
   • Look at the list and decide what you can:
   • Do delegate delete - is it all up to you or can others help?
4. Schedule time for yourself.
   • Make sure you're on your own list. Often people have a list and they leave themselves off the list. You need to be included in your schedule!
5. Evaluate what choices you are making
   • Life is a series of choices. Most things we don't actually have to do.
   • What are you choosing here? Are you choosing to be the one who makes all the decisions?
   • And then feel resentful about others who never make decisions?
6. What would you rather be feeling?
   • Our feelings are created from our thoughts we have about a situation. If you would rather be feeling understanding or compassionate, what different thought would you have?
   • How would you show up if you felt that way?
   • What actions would you take, what would you not do (inactions)?
7. Communicate your wants - resentment shows up when you are non-confrontational and it festers within.
   • Communication and asking for help, expressing your feelings is such a pivotal part of change.
   • Who needs to hear what is important to you? 
   • Get it off your chest and share what matters to you.

Which one of these seven points do you want to get started with? Getting over resentment is 100% possible. 

If you want help to get over resentment that seems to be part of your situation, set up a complimentary 25 minute burnout recovery strategy session with me here.