Does the event define the outcome?

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Dr Jo Braid is an experienced coach for doctors. She helps doctors move from burnout to balance, overwhelm to owning it. She works with doctors at any stage of their career to plan for their most successful and sustainable future.By Jo Braid
This week I wanted to share a story from home where my eldest son embraced a new situation none of us expected in January. It is an example of how the situation doesn’t define the result – our thoughts do!
So on day 3 of the new term in January 2022, my eldest son had invited me to do some cricket practice with him in the garden. It was all going well, until he took a catch and on falling back, he broke his fall with his left arm….or rather his left wrist broke due to the fall… He hadn’t even re-started cricket games or practice with his team… and the rest of the season was out while he recovered and took a pause on sport for the term. On the moment of the accident he was understandably distressed. He seemed quite resigned to change in routine, and a sense of “I’m not invincible”.
However he didn’t stop doing bowling practice with my middle son in the back yard (he was unable to bat with a cast on!). Previously he took a long run up to the wicket and did fast bowling. With a broken arm he had to change technique and up-skilled as a leg spin bowling style (aka Shane Warne!). And he has scored a spot in the representative cricket team U-12 for next summer.
So I’d like to share this as an example of the Model (from The Life Coach School) that I often use in coaching:
  • Circumstance: Fractured left wrist
  • Thought: I want to keep bowling in cricket
  • Feeling: Persistent
  • Actions: Do a short run up to the wicket, avoid hurtling towards it and risking losing my balance, keep practicing, try out different techniques
  • Result: I keep bowling in cricket with a new technique
So although most of my clients come with overwhelm relating to work, to-do list, scheduling, or have had a confronting experience with regard to feedback, loss of confidence or inter-personal disagreements, I wanted to share one of the tools I commonly use in a coaching session. The circumstance is a fact – it can be proved that it happened. We can have any thought about that fact. Different people may have different thoughts about the same fact!