This week I wanted to share a story from home where my eldest son embraced a new situation none of us expected in January. It is an example of how the situation doesn’t define the result – our thoughts do!
So on day 3 of the new term in January 2022, my eldest son had invited me to do some cricket practice with him in the garden. It was all going well, until he took a catch and on falling back, he broke his fall with his left arm….or rather his left wrist broke due to the fall… He hadn’t even re-started cricket games or practice with his team… and the rest of the season was out while he recovered and took a pause on sport for the term. On the moment of the accident he was understandably distressed. He seemed quite resigned to change in routine, and a sense of “I’m not invincible”.
However he didn’t stop doing bowling practice with my middle son in the back yard (he was unable to bat with a cast on!). Previously he took a long run up to the wicket and did fast bowling. With a broken arm he had to change technique and up-skilled as a leg spin bowling style (aka Shane Warne!). And he has scored a spot in the representative cricket team U-12 for next summer.
So I’d like to share this as an example of the Model (from The Life Coach School) that I often use in coaching:
  • Circumstance: Fractured left wrist
  • Thought: I want to keep bowling in cricket
  • Feeling: Persistent
  • Actions: Do a short run up to the wicket, avoid hurtling towards it and risking losing my balance, keep practicing, try out different techniques
  • Result: I keep bowling in cricket with a new technique
So although most of my clients come with overwhelm relating to work, to-do list, scheduling, or have had a confronting experience with regard to feedback, loss of confidence or inter-personal disagreements, I wanted to share one of the tools I commonly use in a coaching session. The circumstance is a fact – it can be proved that it happened. We can have any thought about that fact. Different people may have different thoughts about the same fact!